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esskay
Digital storyteller, Photographic narrator, Hogwarts alum. In real life, I write things. I speak fluent sarcasm. I'm unintentionally funny. My favorite thing is food. Guac is life. I'm a fountain of the most random information. I'm pretty, only because it's weird to call oneself beautiful. I'm weird in all the good ways. I live in the greatest city on Earth. I was Sasha before Beyonce was schizophrenic. My life is stranger than fiction. But please, don't take my word for it. My pen is mightier than my sword. Instagram
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Sunday, July 6, 2014 || 7:33 PM
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them"Lately, I keep hearing people say "the biggest mistake that you make in your 20's is thinking that you should completely have your shit together." I'm paraphrasing but that's the gist of it. And honestly, when I heard it I was pretty relieved because although I'm well on my way, I still don't have my shit completely together. Getting there is just a part of growing up but for some reason, people think that when you stop growing, you stop growing up. Personally, I believe that couldn't be further from the truth. I don't think you ever truly stop growing up or learning more about yourself and the world around you.
These past few years alone have taught me a lot about life. More specifically, about people and what they're capable of. It's weird, when we're younger, it's all about the quantity of people in your life and as you get older, it's all about the quality. It always starts with a big change in your life. For me, it took the death of my brother to know who was truly a friend and who just called themselves that because it was convenient. The difference was easy to spot. One held my hand at his graveside and the other disappeared like Houdini. For others, like my best friend, it was a happier occasion (her marriage and the birth of her baby) that shone a light on the sad truth of human nature. Some stood by her at the alter and again, at the bedside of her newborn. But the vast majority whom she once thought were genuine, also learned the art of vanishing.
Sometimes, it's not an old relationship but a new one. The promise of something new with so many possibilities always outweighs the obvious red flags. Some people would rather be with a shitty person than be alone. I've said on numerous occasions that I will never understand it but it's a fact of life. And sometimes, it'll be your own flesh and blood who delivers the insulting blow every time you turn the other cheek. I know that the right thing to do is forgive these people. If God can forgive us for everything we've done, who are we to hold a grudge. But forgiveness doesn't mean you have to be a fool. When someone shows you their true colors, take it at face value. They will always be who they are and you will always be who you are and that's fine. But they can be who they are far away from you. Forgive them and then leave them the hell alone. Don't play in a hornets nest and then wonder why you keep getting stung. No one knows these people better than they know themselves so when they show you who they are and what they're all about, believe them. Chances are, they were only in your life for a season, long enough for you to learn the lesson intended. After all, it's all part of growing up.
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